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The Dance Of Aloneness

We are all alone.This is not depressing when you realise it's the truth.We are born alone, we die alone.Along the way, perhaps we meet. Friends, lovers, strangers. Husbands, wives, sons, daughters.The roles can separate us as much as they can bind us.We long for connection, yet we fear intimacy.We seek contact, but we want to be safe.We push others away by trying to hold onto them.We hide our truth out of fear of loss.Yet we lose each other in the hiding.We seek solid ground, yet we know that it's all groundless.We plan futures yet we know they are mere daydreams.We long to be free yet we flee the terror of our freedom, seeking comfort and answers.Our comfort soon turns to...

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When You Listened

In my darkest moments, you listened to me.When my heart was broken, raw and aching for love, you offered a safe, warm, empathic field in which I could break as much as I needed to.“Break more. It’s safe here”, you said.When I was lost, you did not try to save me. When I was scared, you did not try to take away my fear.When I wept, you wept with me.When I felt I couldn’t go on, you allowed me to rest.When my certainties fell away, you blessed my doubts.You did not abandon me when I was at my worst. My negativity did not scare you. My dark fantasies did not threaten you. My flaws were not repulsive to you. And...

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I Cannot Lose Myself

I used to be terrified of feelings, my own feelings and the feelings of others. I believed that if I went too deeply into feelings, if I let them exist for too long in me, if I allowed them to live in my body, I would go mad, or I would be destroyed by them somehow. Or they would never leave, and I would get “stuck” in them forever, sucked into their dark heart, no way out. I feared “losing myself” in feelings.I feared my own fear. I had anxiety about having anxiety. I was angry with my own anger. Like many, I believed that I had dark, sinful, dangerous energies inside of me, and that I had to avoid...

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By Jeff Brown

Not everyone will heal in this lifetime. It’s important that we accept and understand this. The perpetual emphasis on acknowledging and healing trauma is a beautiful thing, but its not for everyone. Because some of us don’t have the capacity to heal. Some can’t even get out of bed, because of the weight of their pain and the complexity of their trauma. Too much has happened, and there is no possibility of transformation. This is very hard to accept in our toxic positivity culture, one where trauma is the new buzz word and where people forget that they are not walking in someone’s else’s shoes. Just because you were able to heal parts of your past, doesn’t mean everyone can...

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The Wisdom Of Shame

As awareness, as pure creativity, you are unlimited.Yet as a creature, as a human being, you are ... limited.Wait. Listen. Don't be so quick to judge 'limitation' as negative or depressing. Or a mistake. Or 'less than'. Look closer.This animal body will die. Get infections. Lose its strength. Organs will fail. Even with the best of intentions, the most positive thinking, it can't do everything the mind fantasises about. The Law of Attraction collapses in the end, into its own Source. This is what the Buddha was teaching. Impermanence. A deep reverence for endings. A willingness to sanctify the broken things, as well as the pristine things. If you lose touch with your human limitations, you move quickly into arrogance,...

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